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And finally...

Rachel Gallagher writes...

"Every gap year is an experience and most gappers will have a wonderful time. For those who don't, and they will be very few, you as parents must try to turn the experience into something positive. They should not feel that they have failed in their first steps on their own.

Your child needs to know that if necessary they can make a U-turn if things aren't working out, that they can change plans, come home or whatever and you will support them. However, if they have gone with friends or an organisation they have made a commitment, and people will be relying on them, so it is important they give things long enough before coming to a decision. Many places and placements look pretty bleak in the first week or two but they nearly always turn out to be a great experience.

Most importantly - talk to your children. They will undoubtedly be having fears and doubts of their own. Externally they may be full of confidence but even to the most self-assured youngster this is a daunting time and they need your support. Equally tell them of your worries too, they might not have appreciated just how you feel. And remember you need to let them go so that they can come home again."



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